"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Friday, June 10, 2011

Things People Say

I consider myself pretty tough. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt most of the time, especially when it comes to comments about being pregnant, getting pregnant, infertility, etc. I don't know if these injections are interferring with my tolerance level or what, which is one reason I've been more private this time with our treatment. I believe whole-heartedly that people mean well the majority of the time. And also, there is a big part of me that wants to be transparent about everything and share my joy with others. However, there is also a place in my spirit, especially lately, that has just had enough of people's opinions and useless lines regarding pregnancy.

Today, I was having a conversation with a friend about our upcoming transfer. It just so happens this friend and her husband are about to start trying for baby #2. How lovely! Do people really do that? PLAN when to have sex so they will conceive? What's that like? I don't think my husband and I even relate sex and having a baby anymore. Have sex to have a baby? Who does that?

Anyway, the subject of the hot summer came up, and she made the statement that if it didn't happen immediately in July or August, they would just have to stop trying until her pregnancy wouldn't fall within the hottest summer months. How convenient. No worries about aging eggs or worrying about using all of your vacation time or making up work hours or the busy times of the month because there will be countless trips out of town for blood draws, ultrasounds, etc. They will just stop trying until it's more convenient. All of a sudden, I found myself sitting there with my throbbing and knotted Progesterone hip saying "well, I just pray it all works out exactly the way you want it....and I pray you never have to go thru HELL and back to get pregnant because this is no cake walk, especially these shots."

Then she said THIS.

"Well, you have to go through a certain amount of that when you actually have the baby anyway, ya know? Those epiderals are no fun."

What could I even say to that? Seriously?!


  1. I was not aware that her one epidural (which you can opt out of btw), was equal to the double digits worth of shots you've shoved into your belly and hips over the last, what was it 50 days?! You may be in triple digits. Ask her if she'd like to trade! And HOT, well, you know my feelings on this, yes, it's hotter than hades outside, but is a baby not worth some discomfort to you? Wonder if she vomited at all? I'll give her my vomiting that continues (including Wed night and Thurs-all day). People really have no clue! I'm amazed at the things people say, as if they have any understanding at all, not a clue. I don't pretend to have a clue about things that have not happened to me, people could show us the same respect! Anyhow, just keep pushing forward, I'm proud you didn't push her off a chair! I'd like to see if anyone has a concept of how much 100mg of progesterone is? To SHOVE into your hip, since it can't go into fat, it must go INTO your muscle! Again, I shall stop, but know you've got my love and support!

  2. I Ditto Deni on this one, I can't profess to completely understanding, but just reading what my friends are going through and even if someone told me I don't think I would even open my mouth to compare. Geesh! But also as you said what could you say to that, But then again I can think of some things. okay gonna stop babbling now. HUGS

  3. Sweetest Amy,

    I go back to my mantra, "don't even judge unless you've walked a mile in someones shoes". Chalk that comment up to ignorance honey!

    I know that I've been absent here on your blog, but I want to let you know that I am praying like mad for those embies to stick and settle in for the next 38 weeks! My heart is so full and I'll be waving my pom poms for you!!!

    I'm always here for you sweet friend. And I'm so happy you and Deni got to meet...she's a sweetheart, love her! Also happy your house is finished...that's awesome. Do take good care of yourself and I'm sure you are very sore from injections. My heart goes out to you, as I know its taxing on the body and mentally as well.

    Know that I'm thinking of you and sending lots of HUGS and love your way....and TONS OF Sticky BABY dust.